Recently I’ve stopped attending all of the mom play dates in the park and group meet-up’s because it’s simply exhausting. Actually, it’s beyond exhausting listening to all of the mom-shaming going on nowadays. And with the advent of social media, sometimes you can’t escape it even if you’re just at home minding your own business. We shouldn’t be judgemental of each other as parents because we are in it together.
Here are a few suggestions to get you thinking about what mothers should do in order to support one another.
Instead of judging the stressed out mom yelling at her kids, you should offer to help. For instance, you might be standing in line at your grocery store and you see a frazzled mom holding a crying toddler in one hand yelling at her two other kids. Instead how about: offer to hold the toddler and stay with the young boys while she checks out. Or if that seems too forward, simply ask her if you can assist putting the groceries in the check out. Trust me, moms appreciate the small things that make a big difference.
When it comes to parenting and with each passing day we learn something new. If you know something that could assist you can offer helpful advice to someone who is maybe just starting out.
For instance, my daughter was maybe 4 months old and Inwas shopping at Nordstrom. An older woman who was working the counter commented on my child hen simply said, “Don’t forget about yourself and don’t loose yourself in the process.” I really didn’t follow her at the time, but three years later I’ve never forgotten what she said. Just a little time out for myself could make a world of difference, when we put so much into our children. Your helpful advice brings inspiration and can make someone’s day.
The next time you’re tempted to judge a woman who never for example sits her baby down, you should understand that her baby is different from yours. In other words, what works for one baby may not work for another. So if you have a naturally content baby, spare some kind words and understanding for the mom with an irritable baby that needs special handling. Doing so will help to foster useful relationships with other moms.
When you think about it, there are so many ways you could be useful to another mom. Think about the things that you could use to make your life a little easier. Pay it forward, share and brighten up another mom’s day.
Kindly share it with other moms and provide them with the motivation to soldier on.